Knowledge of Parenting

Parents know their children best—their unique behaviors, interests, and abilities. But it is challenging for any parent to be an expert on all aspects of infant, child, and teenage development or the most effective ways to support a child at each stage. When parents are not aware of normal developmental milestones, or they do not know how to respond to and effectively manage a child's behavior, they can become frustrated and may resort to harsh discipline or emotional withdrawal.

There is extensive research linking healthy child development to effective parenting. Children thrive when parents provide not only affection, but also respectful communication and listening, consistent rules and expectations, and safe opportunities that promote independence. Successful parenting fosters psychological adjustment, helps children succeed in school, encourages curiosity about the world, and motivates children to achieve. Parenting skills cannot be static; as children grow and mature, parents need to change the way they respond to their children's needs. In addition, parenting styles need to be adjusted for each child's individual temperament and unique circumstances.

Exploring Strengths and Needs

All parents have questions about raising their children, and they need timely answers and support from someone they trust. Parents may feel more comfortable voicing concerns and exploring solutions when providers:

  • Focus on the parents' own hopes and goals for their children
  • Help parents identify and build on their strengths in parenting
  • Model nurturing behavior by acknowledging frustrations and recognizing the parents' efforts

Child Welfare Information Gateway, 2007